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Reinvent Yourself


You are a beautiful essence expressing your own unique genius.  Yes, I said genius. And no, I don’t mean like Albert Einstein.  We each have something that delights us, that we enjoy doing and most times a yearning to share that with others in some way. And this essence that wants to break out leads you to reinvent yourself –many times over the course of your life. What do I mean by reinvent? To remake or to bring back.  You can change your entire life one tiny bit at a time, you know.  Is there one area of your life that you’d like to reinvent? 



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Something might have popped in your head when I asked that question…and there’s a good chance it was immediately followed by a “yeah but”.  Well I’m here to tell you that most of us have pretty big butts (and I don’t mean the one you’re sitting on!).


Let’s talk about some of the obstacles that keep you from doing things you love and how to work around them.


Obstacle #1:  Age.  I don’t care how old you are.  If you are 60 and say you are too old to change…how do you think you’ll feel when you look back at 80 yrs old and remember how old you thought you were at 60.  There are many stories of folks who reinvented themselves at all ages. 


artistArtist, Grandma Moses began painting in her seventies after abandoning a career in embroidery because of arthritis. An art collector discovered her paintings in a Hoosick Falls, New York drugstore window in 1938. In 1939, an art dealer exhibited some of her work in gallery in New York. This brought her to the attention of collectors all over the world, and her paintings became highly sought after. She went on to exhibit her work throughout Europe and in Japan, where her work was particularly well received.  In 1956 she was paid $1000 for a painting for President Eisenhower.


Yes, your body is going to age, but your mindset towards aging has a tremendous influence on how well you will age. Studies on longevity show that genetics have only a 30% influence on the length of our lives; the remaining 70% depends on one’s lifestyle.


In the 1800’s 65 was established as the marker of “old” when the life expectancy was only 47. Life expectancy is pushing 80 today; 65 is just beginning a new chapter.


More people are living to 100 and older.  When these centenarians are asked about how they’ve achieved such longevity, they generally mention four key ingredients: being optimistic and having a positive attitude; engagement…doing the things in life one loves and feels strongly about; being active and mobile; and, adaptability to loss and resilience. Learning to deal with and adapt to the difficulties of life…deal with it and the let it go.


Obstacle #2:  Physical Ability. My father was a great admirer of Helen Keller, the famous deaf & blind author and world famous speaker. He had an opportunity to “hear” her speak…actually her speech was translated into sign language for the mostly deaf audience.  My father is completely deaf –he spoke to Ms. Keller through finger spelling letters into each other’s hands. 

She was the first deaf & blind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree.  A prolific author, Keller was well traveled and was outspoken in her support for women’s suffrage, workers’ rights, and socialism.  She met every US President from Grover Cleveland to Lyndon B. Johnson and was friends with many famous figures, including Alexander Graham Bell, Charlie Chaplin, and Mark Twain. 

Her words:  I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do.”  I remember these words when I start to feel like what I’m doing is insignificant.  Do what you love to do.  Start now!

Obstacle #3: Time.  Think for a minute.  What would you do with five completely free hours a day –every day?  Or how about three completely open days a week… every week.  AND, a few weeks or months here and there throughout every year that were entirely yours to do with what you liked.  You probably can’t even imagine it!


You must free up time to go after your dreams or to even do nothing at all.  The most authentic and creative side of you can re-emerge only when you have open time.


You probably spent much of the first 40 years of your life meeting other people’s needs.  Now is YOUR time.  Move your desires to the top and let lots of other people’s needs drop down your priority list.


I know…I know…I hear your “yeah butts.”  This does take courage.  I can speak from experience, it gets easier.  You learn to teach people what to expect from you by your words and actions.  You don’t have to do lots of explaining… if I have an afternoon blocked out for “me” time…time to just walk and sit by the harbor and “be” I can honestly tell people…no I can’t schedule you in that slot…I am booked.   Ralph Waldo Emerson said “The greater part of courage is having done it before.”  So give it a try.  Block out a space of time just for you.  And let me know what ideas pop up for YOUR latest reinvention.

4 Power Networking Strategies for Self Employed Women


Many of the women who work with me are shy. And so was I when I first left my “job job” and began networking. When I worked in the university setting, the only networking I did was at conferences where we’d share our curriculum and research findings with others… it didn’t feel like “selling”.

When I left behind that “academic identity” 10 years ago, I knew it would be important for me to get out and meet people to share information about my career coaching services and to establish myself as an expert in this field that was new to me. I was quite nervous about this activity but recognized the value enough to talk myself into attending 3 different networking meetings each month. This week, I want to share what I learned with you about what works in networking.

Strategy #1: Intention. Before you attend a meeting, get clear in your own mind, what you would like to have happen. Play the scenario out in your mind like a movie. My intention is usually to meet at least 2 people who can help me by referring clients to me and whom I can help in some way that will be powerful for them.

Try out a networking event before you join. Each has a different flavor –find the ones that are comfortable for you. I recommend joining three. I currently belong to my local Chamber of Commerce, my local chapter of National Association of Women Business Owners ( and a mastermind group. I usually attend 1 breakfast meeting, 1 lunch meeting, 1 dinner meeting and one 5:00-7:00 pm “mixer” each month.

Strategy #2: Be curious about people. Here’s a simple formula that works every time. Set a goal to have this conversation with at least 3 people each time you attend a networking event. Approach the person and say “what is your business or what is your work?” Once they tell you, say “what kind of person is your ideal client?…I’d like to know so I may be able to refer people to you.”

Ask them for 2 or 3 cards that you can share with others. When they hand you their card, look at it for a moment, comment on it if you like something about it and jot down a note on it to remind you of how you might help them.

When you get back to your office, put them in your database. If you have an ezine or newsletter, send them your most recent issue with a note saying “this may be of interest to you or may benefit someone you know. If you’d like to subscribe…click here (to your subscriber link) or if you don’t yet have an electronic database set up, say “if you’d like to subscribe, shoot me a message back and I’ll add you to my list.” “If you know of someone who would benefit by this information, I’d appreciate it if you’d forward it along.” “If you have a newsletter or ezine, I’d also like to see yours.”

During the following weeks, if you see an article that contains information that pertains to that person, forward it to them with a note. If they are helpful to you in anyway, send a thank you card. The fact that are thinking of them and wanting to help them will help establish a relationship.

Strategy #3: Practice answering the question – “what is your business?”

You need to have a quick, specific answer that you can say with ease and confidence.

This takes practice and fine tuning and that’s ok. As I mentioned early in this ezine, I just attended a conference this past weekend. I was struck by how many people could not answer this question easily when I asked it of them. Many people said to me “wow, you are so clear.”

Here’s what I said when someone asked me what my work was: “I work with women over 40 who want to be self employed. They either can’t decide what business to start, or they have started a business and need help growing it so they can make plenty of money.”

Strategy #4: Use Both Sides of Your Business Card. Don’t agonize over your first business cards and don’t spend a ton of money on them. No doubt, you will change your mind about the design/content over time. I recommend Don’t forget to use the valuable space on the back of the card. You can use this space to list your key services or speaking topics or include a great testimonial here.

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