Posts tagged goal setting
What’s most important for you to focus on today? That’s a question I ask to start off each coaching conversation I have with clients. It’s a question I ask of myself each morning. I have many interests, and since you’re hanging out with me and reading my stuff, I’m guessing there’s a good chance that you do too. As a matter of fact, many of you lament the fact that you have “too many interests.” Hogwash.
It’s great to have interests but here’s a key to not feeling overwhelmed or ineffective. Choose at least 1 thing to do each day that will have a great impact and do at least 1 thing each day that just makes your heart sing.
What do I mean by “impact?” Well that will be personal to you, but it could be an action that will bring you recognition, or in the long run, continue to increase your income. It could change your career. Maybe it’s something that will make a difference in your community or make an important change to your personal life.
Here’s a way to figure out what to focus on. If you don’t already have an action list (to do list) quickly write out of all the things you think you should or want to do. Then look at each item and ask: How will this change my career, my work, my life? Will this have an impact a week, a month, a year from now? Does this task further a long term goal of mine…how important is this goal?
This might take a bit of time to do at first but once you practice, you can do this in just a few minutes. Don’t like this method? Try this one.
List the goals you’d like to accomplish in the next year. Then each day, choose at least one action that moves you closer to your goals.
And don’t forget to do at least one thing just because you love it. Because if you do, you’ll find yourself connecting with your “real” self…and that real self will guide you to do the things that are truly the most important things for you to do in order to live YOUR life, YOUR way.
Go ahead and share a goal with us here in the comment section. There’s great power in writing goals down and sharing them a supportive community. Want even more support and structure? Join our 30 Days to Get It Done group beginning October 6th…watch here for details on how to register or drop me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org with “30 days” in the subject line and I’ll send you the details.
I’m returning from a month long August vacation. I had plenty of time to think, to breathe, to observe my choices. The idea of goals came up again and again in my thoughts. Here’s what I think today.
I have a love/hate relationship to goals. With them, I have accomplished a great deal in this lifetime and many of those accomplishments gave me great pleasure on the journey to achieve them. These achievements enriched my life and I hope, the lives of others.
The hate part of the relationship is that when I’m focused on goals, I’ve lost my freedom to choose moment to moment what it is I’d most like to be doing.
I think that in order to mature and grown into the magnificent being that you are meant to be you need to learn to set goals. I wished someone had taught me this earlier in life. I really didn’t “get it” until I was 27 years old.
When you learn how to choose and achieve goals, you begin to trust yourself. Once you’ve had lots of practice at it, although it sounds counter intuitive, I think the next step in your growth is to begin to let go of goals and to live more and more in the present. But I don’t think you can skip the first step -setting and achieving goals takes you inside into your inner world and “inside” is a place where most of us, Americans anyway, spend very little time.
In order to choose a goal you have to look inside and see what is stirring. What desire is wanting to be fulfilled? What is it you need to do at this time to be more fully expressed? Once you name it, you need to change the shape of your days to accommodate whatever actions are needed to make that goal a reality. Those small changes move you in a new direction that is closer to what you need to live a full and expressed life and to share who you are with others.
I’m now at a point where I’m wanting to let go of having too many goals. I don’t think I’ll ever give them up entirely though. Matter of fact, I have a lot of excitement as I set new ones for the year ahead.
But I’m beginning to experiment. I’m going to leave more space in my days to follow my whims and see where they lead me.
Did reading this bring up questions for you? Ask here and I’ll respond. Or share your thoughts on goals… I’d love to know what you think.
There is something quite magical and scientific about 4 days. When you do something once or twice or even three times, you don’t yet feel like a “person that does that.” Suppose you have a goal to start blogging. You know it’s a great no-cost way to get your message out and connect with folks. So you post one blog. Maybe the 2nd day you post again. Then you stop. Three weeks later, if someone asks you if you “blog?” you’ll probably say no…well, I tried it but… Now if you stick with it for four days, something shifts. All of a sudden if feels like something natural.
If it’s an important goal for you, you’ll want to string together 5 four day actions plus 1 more day. That means you’ll have blogged for 21 days straight. And science tells us that at that point, it’s more difficult to stop the new habit then to continue it. At that point you may decide 3 posts a week is enough. And that will seem simple!
So what goal would you like to achieve? Commit to it for four days. Want to boost your chances of success? Choose a small reward you’ll give yourself each day after you’ve kept your commitment. It doesn’t have to be a huge expense, it just has to make you happy. Maybe a lavish coffee at your local coffee house. Or reading a novel just for fun for one hour. Then choose a larger reward for completing your action for four days. This should be a pretty good reward -maybe a massage or a new book.
After the first four days, you’re really over a psychological hump. Give it a try and post your results here. We’d love to read them!
I’m working with a coach to get a book written. Writing a book is a big goal. I’m at the “sit at your desk and open a vein” part of the process (meaning I actually have to sit my a** down and write… a lot.) I’ve found a way that works for me and wanted to share it with you. This goal setting method can be used for any project you really want to complete but find yourself avoiding even getting started.
I’m calling it the 10 minute way to trick yourself into accomplishing anything. In my case, I’m using the Write or Die software (http://writeordie.drwicked.com/) -there’s a free version online, but if your projects involve writing, spring $10 bucks for the desktop version -it’s got more cool features.
At first I tried setting the timer for 1 hour. Ha! I did everything to avoid starting -as a result I have a very clean house. Then I tried setting it for 30 minutes -I gained a couple of pounds by avoiding my computer again. Then I tried 10 minutes -perfect! I am able to write for 10 minutes and the time mostly flies by. Then I quickly talk myself into another 10 minutes and I can usually convince myself to go a third round -30 minutes of writing at a sitting.
Now you night think -well that will take too long to get your project done if you’re only working on it 30 minutes at a time. Hey! I’m making progress -I’m moving forward -my book will get done this way. AND, I leave my write or die software open during the day and when I find myself procrastinating on another project, I work on my book for 10 minutes and then come back to it.
You can use this -it works! You could set your cell phone alarm or an outlook reminder for 10 minutes and dive in. What goal do you have that you are procrastinating on? Try it for a few days. Then post your results here -I’d love to hear them!
“Breakthrough to the Best You in 2010: Create Your Powerful Yet Simple Goal Setting and Time Management System That Works!” Free Tele-Conference Open to Public
Many believe that 2009 was the worst year they ever experienced. What can we do about this? Plan ahead to make 2010 a year where you turn things around, make smart choices and build the future you want in all areas, including finances, relationships, physical and emotional health.. Hosted by Authentic Life Institute, this free tele-seminar demystifies the goal setting process and provides concrete steps for taking control of your precious time and ensuring success.
San Juan Capistrano, CA AddPR.com, December 22, 2009
The economy has battered and bruised many people. They often feel that life is spinning out of control. They react out of fear and maybe aren’t making the best choices.
What can be done? The best remedy is to take charge of your life. There is nothing that dispels fear like a well thought out goal and taking actions to achieve it.
Fact –Less than 15% of people write their goals down in specific, measurable, detail. (Source- www.ThinkTQ.com)
Fact- Only 12% have at least one clearly defined goal for every major interest in their life. (Source- www.ThinkTQ.com)
Fact- Only 22% share your goals with others for mutual accomplishment. (Source- www.ThinkTQ.com)
Who wouldn’t want to be create their vision, have a clear plan to achieve it, know what actions are most important to take each day to live a life filled with peace of mind, financial freedom, a healthier body and joyful relationships?
Honestly? Not everyone. Most people aren’t willing to take the quiet, inner time to think through goals and actions; however, now, more than ever, people are questioning the direction of their lives, seeking more meaning and purpose along with material security and success.
To address the problem of financial adversity and lack of clear direction and to promote the benefits of goal setting and time management, Authentic Life Institute, a virtual learning center reaching more than 17,000 people monthly, is hosting a free tele-teleseminar (via telephone) on January 6, 2010, open to the public on “Breakthrough to the Best You in 2010: Create Your
Powerful Yet Simple Goal Setting and Time Management System That Works!”
Topics covered include-
– Why set your goals?
– A simple but powerful goal setting system
– Action planning to accomplish your goals with ease and success
– Time Integrity -It’s Your Time, How Will You Use It?
Ann Ronan, Ph.D., founder of Authentic Life Institute states “Starting with a vision for your life and then creating a definite plan to achieve it with planned out action steps and support is the absolute key to success in life. It is my mission to help others live their authentic life – a life of purpose and meaning with all the money needed to live a truly rich life.”
For more information visit http://authenticlifeinstitute.com/classes/january-6-2010/
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